There are few guarantees in life. Death is guaranteed, as are taxes and pain. All good things, right? And only one of them can you really control, and that’s pain. Seeing as pain and struggle is guaranteed in life, it becomes something one can accept and use as valuable information. And that, my friend, is what I think makes the difference.
I’m no sado-massochist. I hate pain, as is biologically normal. I remember meeting a goth-type in Junior College who tried to convince me that he enjoyed pain, as he strolled along a nice academic lawn setting, with sunglasses on. I called him on his bullshit and told him that he should be in some dark hole scraping himself if that were true. Perhaps that is another guarantee in life, that most people are full of shit.
And apparently I’m full of vinegar as I write this at 1:30 in the morning. I don’t think so. Because really I want to make this an uplifting article, positively so. Pain is to be accepted though, because it is the most powerful sense that you have. How many senses do we have? Sight, taste, hearing, smelling and feeling. The last being the most powerful. Touch. And there is little subjectivity to the hard-wiring of the nervous system to the brain.
If you want to achieve substantial progress, you have to be wiling to endure hardship. Replace you with I in the previous sentence and it becomes a note to myself. Of course it’s rational and good to want to avoid unnecessary pain, but it’s also rational to realize that certain pain is unavoidable if you’re determined to achieve something difficult, whether it by physical stress or mental.
Anyway, the goodness of life is contrasted with the darkness of hardship. Any extremely successful person of any objective measure has endured much pain. Think of someone that you respect because he or she achieved great success. I’m certain that person has been tough, enduring physical, social and mental adversity. Just as your senses communicate information directly to your primal brain, the saying proves true- everything is mental. Internal or external, the power one has is in how one chooses to deal with the situation given his or her options. Sometimes there are no options, and that makes the decision easy.
So I think that I am learning a most important lesson at the right time in my personal growth, and that is that my success is a factor of how I choose to embrace or ignore the often painful realities of my situation. Many times I have chosen to ignore certain truths I faced, most likely because I couldn’t handle the repercussions of acknowledging them. I believe that I have progressively embraced more and more empirical truth about my life as I’ve grown in maturity and processing capability. I’ve seen much personal growth in myself, especially recently, as has been validated by those whose opinions I value.
So I believe that I will continue to be successful, as I define success in the quality of my relationships and objective measurements in business and how I live, because I have learned to learn. I have learned to experience difficulty as gathering information to better myself, and become more efficient at accomplishing what I set out to do. Sometimes I learn that my objectives are too difficult, and I make the conscious choice to give up on things. But the difference between being successful and failing overall is whether or not you remain conscious of the decisions you make, and truly consider the repercussions of such decisions, if you ask me. (: